Every day we have to contact with colleagues at work, relatives, friends, acquaintances and unfamiliar people. With some, a common language can be found easily and quickly. And with someone even a common topic for conversation is quite difficult to find. It’s all about internal barriers that prevent normal communication. If these are random people, you can survive this problem, but what to do when there is no mutual understanding in communicating with loved ones?

FEATURES OF BARRIERS TO HOUSEHOLD AND BUSINESS COMMUNICATION

There are many barriers that prevent contact or destroy existing relationships with a person. One of the common problems is the motivational barrier, when you and your interlocutor have completely different or even opposite life goals. In this case, as a rule, there is no possibility to agree peacefully. It will be extremely difficult to communicate with such a person. A compromise, which the interlocutor or you should make, will help to correct the situation.

Different outlooks on life are another common problem that becomes a “stumbling block” in communication. People with opposite internal attitudes and stereotypes will always experience discomfort during a conversation. Only loyalty and understanding on the part of each of you can help here. After all, the worldview and value system cannot be changed in a short time. To do this, it is necessary that cardinal changes take place in a person’s life.

Also, a different intellectual level of development of the interlocutors can become an obstacle to building normal relationships. There are significant differences in thinking here. Although communication between such people is devoid of aggression and pronounced irritation, it causes great discomfort to both interlocutors. They simply will not find “common ground” and will not be able to simply understand each other.

The ethical barrier also becomes an obstacle to mutual understanding. The concept of such things as “black and white”, “good and evil”, “good and bad”, you and the interlocutor may have diametrical differences. Therefore, communication in this case for both interlocutors will only cause annoyance, grief, and sometimes aggression. As a rule, people separated by an ethical barrier have a different manner and style of communication, they perceive and reproduce information in completely different ways.

LEARNING OVERCOME COMMUNICATION BARRIERS

First of all, you need to set a goal: to be interesting and pleasant in communication. You should also understand that you do not need to ask questions and generally bring up topics, knowing in advance what answers you can get. This will avoid irritation and aggression in the process of communication.

If you feel that your interlocutor is tense or annoyed, defuse the situation by joking. But the choice of joke should also be approached carefully so as not to aggravate the situation. In this case, be guided by the status, features of a sense of humor, social and marital status, gender and age of the interlocutor. By picking up and voicing a good joke, you will not only improve a person’s mood, but will also be able to win him over even more.

During the conversation, you should not count on the fact that the interlocutor will understand what you expect from the conversation, what you are hinting at. Not all people are equally good at “reading between the lines” and recognizing hidden hints. Speak directly, but at the same time try to show loyalty and tolerance. If your interlocutor is excessively shy, psychologists recommend that you exercise special delicacy so as not to accidentally hurt him and not ruin your relationship with him.

Never tell a person what he wants to hear if these statements contradict your inner canons. Sooner or later, the truth will come out, and then it will be much more difficult to correct the situation, if at all possible. In such cases, people, as a rule, are very offended and completely stop all communication. It is better to achieve the favor of the interlocutor in safer ways, and not in veiled flattery.

When communicating with a person, always try to be as imbued with his emotions as possible. Over time, you will learn to accurately determine what feelings prevail in the soul of the interlocutor at the time of the conversation. This will help to avoid conflict situations, smooth out sharp corners, correctly understand the reaction and mood, and also draw conclusions about a particular issue.

Always try to share the emotions of the interlocutor. For example, if he is angry, tell him that you also feel angry (indicate the reason for the anger according to the topic of the conversation). If, on the contrary, he feels joy, have fun with him. Believe me, people really appreciate this attitude towards themselves, so after a couple of similar psychological tricks during conversation, you will automatically be among the favorites.