and independence in all matters, including personal life, so they are in no hurry to get married.

"Home" girls, on the contrary, are initially set up for a quiet family life. And if they fail to make a nest in time and give birth to a bunch of children, they suffer a lot. Loneliness for them is not at all a joy. “It’s better to be with just anyone than alone,” says a typical “home” girl.

If "domestic" women completely dissolve in the family and do not dream of more, then the third type of women - "domestic" - come to family life, having managed to achieve something and having shown themselves to be good specialists at work. Family happiness is not their only dream. The loneliness of such women is depressing, but not so much as to consider your life lived in vain or rush to marry the first person you meet.

To find out what type you yourself are, answer the questions of a simple test. As a result, you will understand why you are still alone, and whether you need to do something about it.

1. You stayed at home with your beloved man for the weekend. What is tormenting you?

a) He broke your usual life schedule: you can’t clean up with him, iron things and chat on the phone with your friends.
b) He can see you without make-up, badly combed.
c) You have already given the repair of the alarm clock, the repair of which could be entrusted to him.

2. You decided to host a guest. What might you not have time for?

a) Clean the plumbing.
b) Get a manicure.
c) Bake a cake for tea.

3. If the man you like offers you to choose the program of the evening, you insist on going:

a) To a restaurant.
b) Visiting friends.
c) To an exhibition (to the theater, to the skating rink).

4. When are you ready to transfer a new pleasant acquaintance to the "bed" stage?

a) That evening.
b) After the third date.
c) After a month of communication.

5. During a visit to your lover, you saw an empty condom package in the trash that had nothing to do with your date. You:

a) Tell your loved one that you are glad of his foresight.
b) You will change him in retaliation.
c) You will try to meet with him more often so that he does not have enough time for other novels.

6. After vacationing with your boyfriend, do you:

a) The first thing you meet with a friend is to discuss the past vacation.
b) Joyfully accept invitations from various fans to go to the theater, to a presentation, to night club.
c) You are cooking dinner and waiting for a call from your boyfriend.

7. When your lover admits that he is married, you:

a) Very disappointed.
b) A little upset, but you think that this does not change anything.
c) You will strive so that the relationship does not go too far.

8. Did you notice that:

a) More often men leave you.
b) You leave men more often.
c) Breakups usually happen for reasons beyond your control.

9. When relatives begin to complain that no one will marry you, you:

a) You get angry.
b) upset.
c) Smile.

10. Walking around the city with your beloved, you wanted a gin and tonic, but the man does not want to buy it for you. You:

a) Buy yourself.
b) Insist on buying it for you.
c) Forget about your desire and go for a walk on.

11. If your cat poops in your lover's shoes, you:

a) Change the cat.
b) You change your lover.
c) You buy him new shoes.

ANSWERS:

a - 3, b - 2, c - 1
a - 1, b - 3, c - 2
a – 3, b – 1, c – 2
a - 3, b - 2, c - 1
a - 3, b - 2, c - 1
a - 2, b - 3, c - 1
a - 2, b - 3, c - 1
a - 3, b - 2, c - 1
a - 2, b - 1, c - 3
a - 3, b - 2, c - 1
a - 1, b - 3, c - 2

So if you typed:

26-33 points.

Whatever you think of yourself, you are a typical "wild" woman. You are quite comfortable alone, you are very sensitive to your freedom and you will not change it for anything. You live in harmony with yourself, which no man can destroy. Do you sincerely think that you need to drive yourself into the framework of marriage?

18-25 points.

Apparently, you are not "wild", but not an accomplished "home". The root of the problem may be that your true aspirations do not coincide with your lifestyle and character traits. To change the situation, it would not be a bad idea to "work on the mistakes" with the help of this book.

11 - 17 points.

You are quite a "home" woman. If you are not yet married, this is a temporary misunderstanding that you can completely correct by working on yourself from this book.

Action 3. VISIT A PSYCHOTHERAPIST

If you were able to honestly answer all the questions of the first two acts and got to the bottom of the truth - you are a good fellow! But, often, in the most difficult moments of our lives, we need help. Of course, you can ask for help from your mother or a friend, but a more effective and fashionable means at present is counseling from a psychotherapist.

I admit honestly, after several sessions, I myself found the answer to the question that tormented me: why do men not call me, such a beauty, down the aisle. And when I realized the reason, marriage proposals began to come to me almost every week. Awareness went like this:

Session 1. Therapy alone with yourself.

The next evening I spend at home in splendid isolation. I watch the fire burning in the fireplace and I reason with myself:
Why am I so unlucky with men? Only like someone for real, as he immediately turns off the fishing rods. But I'm not crooked, not oblique, and much prettier than all my friends who have been married for a long time. I'm moving closer to the fireplace. - In addition, I have a red diploma and since the age of 15 I have been earning money. What else do men need? (thinking).
- But after all, ALL men cannot be scum who need a woman for one night! Perhaps I choose these myself (I think about this guess for a couple more minutes).
- And if I choose such people, then I need them (I tease myself).
- No, I guess I just don’t know how to immediately determine what a man wants from a relationship (I bite my lips so as not to miss the thought). However, he himself may not know what he wants (I sigh in disappointment).
These thoughts can drive you crazy. Again, I didn't get anywhere. I'm a shitty psychologist. I need to go to a psychotherapist (I turn off the fireplace and go to bed hugging a pillow).

Attempt 2. At a session with an NLP therapist.

I don't have serious relationships with men. - I complain to the master of NLP resonance Alexei Kucherov.
- They are going away? Alexey asks, mirroring my cross-legged pose.
- Yes, - I answer, pretending not to notice his "tuning".
- And what do you think about YOURSELF after another breakup?
- That I don't know how to choose men.
- It's clear. Let's work with this statement. Close your eyes and imagine a picture of you meeting a man. (“I draw” with all colors).
How far is this picture from you?
- Very far away: faces are hardly visible.
- So. Now describe a situation where you are good at choosing something.
- (describe how I choose my friends well).
Where is this picture in your mind?
- To my right.
- Great. Now imagine a situation where you do not need to choose anything and you grab the first one that comes across.
(I I pretend to take out a fork. The picture is large, right in front of my eyes).
- Now move the first picture to the place of the third. What do you see?
- I see ... a man's face. And it's not as attractive as I used to think.
- Move the same picture to the place of the second one.
(I move and smile).
- What's happened? the therapist asks.
- I thought: we could be good friends with him (continue to smile).
- Anything else?
- More. Probably, it is not necessary to build a serious relationship with everyone. This takes a lot of energy. With men, you can build a variety of relationships, including friendships.
- Amazing. Now imagine that you were invited to a large company. Who will you meet?
- For some reason, I introduced my favorite bar, where I know all the men. But I would never start a serious relationship with any of them. Except to talk about nothing.
That's all that needed to be proven. So can you choose men?
- It turns out that I can.
- That is great.
After a while, the state of euphoria after the session passed. I realized that this conversation did not solve my problem, but changed my attitude towards it. There was no permanent man, and there is no, but I am unshakably sure that I choose men coolly.
In general, I decided to work on this topic in more depth and came to an appointment with a Gestalt therapist.

Part 3. At the appointment with a gestalt therapist:

I don't have serious relationships with men. - I complain to the Gestalt therapist Anna Vashchenko.
“Tell me about it,” she replies.
- All my novels end quickly, and I need a more serious relationship.
- Do you WANT a