the sack fell on the thief and killed him. In the same way, since we don't have a son, and we don't even know "who I am," we can't go into such fantastic explorations. We must not begin by expecting any kind of reward. Not должно быть борьбы, старания достичь. But then we may feel, "Because there is no set goal, since there is nothing to achieve, won't the whole thing be boring and tedious? Not похоже ли оно на то, что мы никуда не придем?". Да, в этом-то все дело. Обычно мы делаем что-то потому, что хотим чего-то достичь; мы никогда ничего не сделаем, не подумав сначала: "Because "... "I'm going to rest because I'm tired, because I want to calm down, because I need a rest"... "I'll do this and that because I think it will be interesting." Thus, every action, every step is due to "I", i.e. an illusory idea of ​​​​"I" that has not even been questioned. Everything is built around this concept and everything begins "because" ... So, this is all Meditation without any purpose may seem tedious, but in reality we simply do not have the courage to do it and try what comes of it.We need to somehow show courage, because we are interested in this practice want to go further, it is best to do it perfectly and not start with too many items, but start with oneand really delve into it. This may seem uninteresting; the practice itself may not always be exciting; but excitement is not the only thing worth acquiring; we need to develop patience as well. One must willingly seize the opportunity and, in this sense, exercise willpower.
We must go without fear of the unknown, and if we really step forward a little, we will find it possible to start without thoughts of "because", without thoughts of any kind of achievement, without just living in the future. Not следует строить фантазий вокруг будущего и пользоваться ими, как стимулом, как источником бодрости; you need to try to get a full sense of the present moment.

Application. Relationships

According to the scriptures of Buddhism,

the true mentor is the one

who helps you cross the stormy river,

and then burns your boat after you.

A look based on eternity
Eternity is one of those concepts we most cherish and by which we are inspired in our lives. It seems to us that since there is eternity, communication will have an eternal character. One way or another, there is always some kind of continuity that has no end, giving things meaning, spiritual in nature or otherwise. Against such a background, relationships can develop in an atmosphere of transcendent promise.
We hardly realize how such an attitude affects our approach to relationships. “If I made friends with someone at school, I automatically thought that this was friendship forever. Fifteen years ago, my friend and I built a hut. Until now, when we meet, we recall with happy pride how cleverly we put up a log house, cut out grooves, which we had nails, etc." This is the eternal offering on the altar of our immortal friendship
Many relationships are based on common suffering or a common task. We tend to attach great importance to this suffering or this task, for us it serves as a precious reminder of the relationship. Or people meet in an atmosphere of lively mutual interest, in which communication proceeds without obstacles. At the same time, it is customary to admire such a smooth relationship, as if it were a victory over a common enemy. In any case, through such suffering or such smoothness, the relationship takes on a tinge of legend. In this halo, relationships can be seen as truly meaningful against the backdrop of eternity.
Relationships, определяемые, как "хорошие друзья", подразумеваются взаимоотношениями навсегда. You expect the person with whom you are thus connected to spill honey on your grave, otherwise you will feel deceived. You are constantly fighting to maintain your forever beautiful friendship, which puts a huge strain on the relationship. However, this is the pattern of relationships presented by a theistic tradition such as Christianity or Hinduism. Such relationships are considered by this tradition as behavior according to the instructions of God, or as following the pattern of eternal divine love.
The idea of ​​eternity is misunderstood in the sense that depth is taken out of eternity rather than eternity from depth. time of the Civil War, rather for its eternity than for depth. In an ironic sense, such a statement really acquires depth due to the fundamental truth about the transience of everything. existing.
In societies influenced by so-called religions without a creator god, such as Buddhism and Confucianism, at least on a highly sophisticated level, relationships are more a matter of right behavior and honesty than following an eternal divine pattern. The feeling of guilt here is negligible, but there is still a sense of decency or doing the right thing. In such a human context, relationships seem to be based on a model that goes back to ancient exchange patterns. There was more involved in the relationship of exchange than the struggle for monetary units. To get some value in return, you had to give value. With all this, the revered model plays a certain role.

A view based on a sense of mortality
Eternity or a revered example cause mistrust and doubt. And so a person gets the feeling that the right or wrong course of relationships does not depend on his will. There is an assumption about inevitable chaos or death. Fearing this spontaneous development of relationships beyond our control, a person tries to ignore his real emotions and his free will. Strong people do this semiconsciously, developing a sense of vocation or dogma in relationships, while weak people are guided by the tricks of their subconscious.
In general, a strong type strategy is less successful than a weak type strategy in creating "ideal" relationships. The first can be successful only if its fundamentally illogical provisions are constantly translated into logically reliable ones for a friend or partner. And then the permanent preservation of this majestic building is achieved. A weaker, but more tolerant type, never opposes a partner on global issues. Instead, he or she puts the feeling of death or chaos into a thousand trifles: a partner, for example, forgets to close the ketchup or squeezes the paste out of the tube incorrectly; the fault of the partner lies in these trifles.
Notсмотря на философские и религиозные убеждения, существует ощущение постоянной угрозы смерти; and the relationship is doomed. Whether you're strong or weak, you're trapped in the trap of having no choice, because the real situation is constantly creating a hodgepodge that needs to be experienced.

The disappearance of everything. Looking through awareness of the identity of life and death
Giving importance to death is tantamount to death. It is the same as if a person, when cutting an onion, pays more attention to the knife than to the cutting process. So you can cut off your fingers. If a person begins to realize this, he has a frightening feeling of helplessness. Not помогают ни мировоззрение, ни подход, так как они не более чем шелуха. Both the theistic belief in eternity and the human concept of right behavior and dignity are all nothing more than a conventional game, divorced from the real situation. Relationship proverbs such as "patience is the best virtue" or "better death than disgrace" are not only derivatives of convention, but the purest water of convention themselves.
The old idea of ​​relationships must inevitably fall away. With the realization that life is the expression of death and death the expression of life, that continuity cannot exist without discontinuity, there is no longer any need to cling to one and fear the other. The basis for strength or weakness no longer exists, and it becomes obvious that any attitude is the absence of any point of view.
One might think that such a relationship is possible only for spiritually advanced persons, but in fact it is an ordinary normal thing. Any conceptual definition becomes destructive, and it begins to seem that the relationship does not exist. But there is no reason to worry: the non-existence of relationships is the ever-fertile ground for relationships. While an agreement of trust breeds further distrust, restrained trust can produce surprisingly cordial relationships.
This restraint is again a point of view, but it is open to surprises, unlike life, according to the promises of philosophical views. It also does not equate to complete distrust, that is, a point of view that does not allow artless friendship to flourish.

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